I want to share my opinion on fear. It will most likely be radically different from anything you've ever heard.
To me, fear is a lie.
I came to this realization upon an ayahuasca ceremony that I allegedly attended. I realized that every fear I have ever had was unfounded. I've worked through every fear I am aware of and feel completely differently about them now. And realized that all I do all day as a therapist is convince people of the same thing; that their fears are unfounded. Successful therapy is dictated by the client recognizing this principle. Not good enough? A lie you took on as a child and reinforced throughout your life as you looked for it and acted accordingly, or assumed based on how others treated you, especially your parents. Worthless? Same thing. Any other fear-based belief? Same principle applies. Differentiation talks about how everyone can change from operating from a reflected sense of self to a solid sense of self but very few do. It's your choice. Believe the lie or work through it.
All fear-based beliefs are lies. It's the foundation of my profession. All day, every work day, I help people recognize that their limiting, fear-based beliefs are bullshit.
One of the biggest challenges I see is that people believe that self-deprecation is motivational. Do you motivate a six year old kid who just horribly played the piano rendition of "twinkle twinkle little star" by telling them they suck ass and will never amount to anything on the piano? No. That kid will quit the piano unless you force them to keep going. And yet, we think that if we do that to ourselves that will motivation us? I think not.
Fear is a completely unnecessary lie that we tell to ourselves (barring actual life threatening situations). Dolores Cannon, who comprises the majority, if not all, of my spiritual belief system, says that the purpose of this life is to overcome fear. I agree.
Fear is a lie. A lie which you can overcome.
As I've mentioned in earlier posts, buddhism has taken on more and more meaning as I've progressed spiritually. It preaches Nirvana. Nirvana is freedom from suffering. And it's 100% possible to achieve. I'm living it. Believe me or don't. Limit yourself as you see fit.
Most people I meet seem incredulous at the idea that this is possible. That is a limiting belief that will keep them stuck in their fear, unable to conceptualize a reality without it. But it's possible, I promise you. Fuck around and find out.
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